When Your Christmas Season Includes Change
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|I read a great article a few months ago by Dr. Patty Cogen on international adoption. In the article, Dr. Cogen gave five different types of initial responses(in the first few weeks/months) of children leaving an orphanage and joining adoptive families. Allie Ruth's behavior perfectly fits one of those categories. She is basically in denial. (others include quiet/withdrawn, rejecting parents/crying, spacey/dazed, tantrums/angry)|
Dr. Cogon's description of this response includes:
"active, constant movement, friendly, always happy, non-discriminatory social behavior (sits on anyones lap). Living in a perpetual present, denial of major life change."
This is exactly what we are seeing in Allie Ruth. It is almost like she believes that she is on a field trip or something. When we arrived back to her orphanage to take a tour, meet her caregivers, and say a final goodbye, Allie Ruth immediately started proclaiming to everyone (in Chinese, of course) "I'm ba-ck!" As everyone there began laughing, we asked our translator what she was saying. She never shed a tear. When it was time to leave, I asked our translator to tell her that she is going home with her mommy and daddy, and would not be coming back. She just walked out and said, "bye bye". That was it. It was over.
She is a true joy. She is full of life, and has such a bubbly little personality. She loves playing dress up, and loves running into our arms for big hugs and kisses. And I must say--I wish you all could be here to experience those moments when someone in the elevator or restaurant is admiring the beautiful American little girl (especially in her hair bows and monogrammed dresses:) -----and then she busts into Chinese conversation with them. There are no words. It is hysterical.
There are a few things that seem to upset her (crib, stroller, high chair, toilet), so are just avoiding those for now. She's sleeping with us, and that makes for some sweet snuggles each morning.
The severity of her vision really is still unknown. She has been running into things at times. She does have a good amount of nystagmus (involuntary eye movement) when she is tired or overstimulated/overwhelmed. However, she can pick up cheerios and raisins with no trouble. We are looking forward to our appointment with Dr. Sugg when we return to Dothan!
She is also falling often, which we relate to delayed motor skills. Of course, that is totally expected in a child from an orphanage, and she will catch up quickly. We"ve already seen great improvement!
She loves her microphone. This clip is my favorite.:)
8 more sleeps, 4 more flights....and then we will be all together as a family of 5.
God has truly blessed us by bringing Allie Ruth into our lives. -Psalm 126:3